With the advent of social media and its continual sprawling growth, we race into the future, and are forgetting how to be human; what being successful means not just in business, but in our personal lives as well. Every time you are exposed to the “media mirror” of some kind of standard out there, you often get confused, frustrated and want to quit because it seems insane and obscures you own value system. There is a way to be successful that you can breach. It starts with taking a step back out of the fray, all that chatter you hear in your head and leaving it “over there”. Once that is done, take a good look at it and see it for what it truly is. Then notice if there is anything worth saving from the pile that is left. If there is, allow it back in and walk away. Ask yourself, “How do I feel?” I bet you will feel lighter, less angry, frustrated and confused. And if the first time doesn’t work, do it again and again until you get it. Common sense still reigns supreme if you allow it. So, start noticing when you are obscuring, and overlaying myths of others value systems of what success means, because that generally leads to self-gratification and eventually to disappointment and emptiness. Instead, have the courage to create your own path, and goals. Any old road can take you to nowhere, so start being honest about your potential, so you can be specific about how best to reach your goals. Ask for help when you need it and know failure and making mistakes are only that, if you don’t learn anything from them.
So start and end each day with this practice of taking that step back out of the fray, leaving it all “over there”, picking through it from the sidelines to see if there is anything you want or need to keep with you as you move on. That is being successful!!