How responsible are you for what’s happening in your life right now? Are you just going with the flow? Are you forever in an emotional state that keeps you distracted? Do you often blame others for what is or is not happening in your life?
Often with new students or during consultations, I hear and feel the pain, frustration, fear, anger and disappointment they are experiencing because this or that didn’t happen like someone said it would. Or that they totally believed their teachers without questioning or doing research themselves to find their answers and then in a respectful way ask questions about what is or is not happening. No one has all the answers. We are all subject to the flaws and fragility of being human. We all make mistakes and fail, that is a given, and in fact it’s an important part of forging your own path. It’s not the end of the world, but the beginning of enlightenment if you stop blaming and instead choose to find the pony in the pile of horse poop, so you can learn the lesson and move on.
Forging your own path is a job, not personal or emotional. It’s an ongoing job that requires your focus, attention, dedication and perseverance. It allows you to be responsible for what happens to you, the good the bad, the ugly. You have the opportunity to feel the fear and do it anyway. You have to own it all and decide what you want to do with it. This is what gives your life meaning and purpose. And this often requires change.
Change is easier for some than others. By nature, some of us are wired to seek and accept change more often than others. But, it is a necessary part of growing which allows getting better at everything, including rejection, being assertive, and forging your own path. This is what gives your life meaning and purpose.
Michael Ray says in his book “The Highest Goal”, “When you act from the highest goal over and over again, you slowly discover that you are traveling your own path. This is the key to grabbing on to your highest goal: You have your own way—your own inner power, your own contribution, your own methods and approaches, and your own experience of the highest goal. Once you recognize this, your life can be a quest to discover your path and live from it. You accept that obstacles or tests contain powerful lessons and opportunities. You see that when you give yourself fully to life and the highest goal, as you do naturally when you are tested, a grace infuses you.”
When you are able to do this, you serve as a good example and inspire others. And that in the end keeps you engaged in and responsible for you own journey.
Enjoy the rest of the summer and let me hear from you. I love receiving all the comments, observations and questions. Avanti, and ciao, Carol
